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<br />Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-21070663593718284662015-02-24T09:30:00.000+11:002015-02-24T09:30:00.313+11:00Do you get so close you can almost feel success and then you stumble at the last hurdle - how could this happen?<h3>
Have you got the guts and resilience for pressure situations?</h3>
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Have you ever been so close to getting something you dearly want? It’s within your grasp, you’re just about there...and then you sabotage it?<br />
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It could be during an interview for a job: you suddenly realise that you have it all wrapped up but before you can stop yourself, you’re jabbering away, talking more than you should and in next to no time, the job you thought was yours is lost.<br />
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Or it could be selling a proposal at a meeting. Same thing. You’ve just about got them across the line. There’s a silence as people are coming to a decision. Instead of waiting out the silence – our mouths open again, adding unasked for/unwanted information – that triggers more questions that we really didn’t want to answer – end result: proposal turned down!<br />
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Or playing sport – you realise you are just about to win. You’re playing tennis - you have 3 match points and only have to win just one more. Or in football or rugby or hockey or netball, you are ahead and need only to defend your goal line for 60 seconds longer. In cricket, you only have to get two more runs and protect your stumps from the next 6 balls. You get the idea.<br />
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But what happens – we blow it, we lose the match, we lose the game, we lose the test. Why?<br />
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Surprise surprise - It’s your amygdala calling</h3>
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Chances are – it was not because of our lack of skill or the superior competence of our opponent – it was because of our own self-sabotage, what is happening in our brain.<br />
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In a split second, our amygdala realises how close we are to getting what we want and fills us with fear at the thought we might not achieve it.<br />
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Instead of allowing our pre-frontal cortex to continue on the successful path that has led us to this point, to concentrate and hold our course (the logical way to deal with the fear), no – instead our amygdala starts its flight or fight routine, filling us with extra adrenalin, niggling at us, causing us to shake, our heart to race even faster, to lose concentration, worry about the future if we don’t win and suddenly we’ve lost when only moments earlier we were about to be victorious.<br />
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No wonder commentators, future employers, our colleagues, team selectors, our bosses, even the stock market in a crisis, ask whether we can ‘hold our nerve’ under pressure.<br />
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Nothing to lose</h3>
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It’s ironic isn’t is that when we start out as a new manager, a budding sports person, a new employee in a role – we come up with great ideas, try out new strategies, new shots, give it our all – simply because we have ’nothing to lose’. Our brain hasn’t yet filed away any potential consequences of not succeeding in its ‘things to be frightened of’ storeroom.<br />
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The more we try, the more experience we get - these are the things that should make us more confident, more able, more focused. Yet so often they seem to create more anxiety about losing, more fears that hold us back and more occasions when we lose our composure.<br />
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Staying cool under pressure</h3>
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One of the key distinguishing features of great sports champions, great managers and leaders, great colleagues and great friends is that they can hold it together under pressure. They can be relied on to hold their nerve, hold on and persevere to the end of the race, the challenge, the game.<br />
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How do they do it? It seems to me that this involves two key elements:<br />
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* Our ability to control our responses to our amygdala<br />
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* Resilience<br />
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Controlling our responses to those ‘almonds’ – our amygdala </h3>
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Here are three tips to help you control your amygdala and prepare for any pressure situation you know is coming up:<br />
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1. Learn how to breathe and relax at will.</h4>
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Don’t wait until you are under pressure to start practising. At any time at all, concentrate on your breathing and lowering your heart rate – you can do this on the bus, on the train, sitting in your car, watching TV, eating a meal, during a conversation.<br />
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Breathe deeply. Get oxygen deep into your lungs so it can spread around your body fast. It’s the best antidote to adrenalin.<br />
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2. Focus on your heart rate. </h4>
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The exercise is simple: tell your heart to slow down. Keep your focus only on doing that.<br />
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Test your current ability to do it. Take your pulse before you do the exercise. Time it for 15 seconds then multiply by 4. Do the exercise for one minute. Then take your pulse again.<br />
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Repeat this exercise daily or more often if you can until you have mastered the ability to slow your heart rate down at will. Even slowing by a few beats per minute will make a difference.<br />
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You do have the time to practice. The exercise doesn’t take much time out of your day – it’s less than 2 minutes in total. i.e. Measure your pulse rate for 15 seconds, then for one minute breathe slowly and focus on your heart rate; then measure again.<br />
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3. Imagine the pressure situation you could find yourself in</h4>
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This builds on the previous exercises. It will take a little more time – allow 10 minutes.<br />
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Sit or lie down in a quiet place and really put yourself there, in the pressure situation, in your mind. Visualise the place, the weather, the time of day, the people around you, the smell, the sounds, the voices, the words, how you are feeling physically, the pressure being applied.<br />
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When you’ve done this, if your heart rate hasn’t gone up – you’ve either mastered the art of relaxation and focus (well done!) or you haven’t really put yourself in that place. If necessary get someone who understands what you are trying to do to ‘talk you into’ that situation.<br />
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Then either, doing it yourself, or with another person’s help – breathe, talk to yourself, tell yourself to focus, walk though what you have to do, acknowledge that you are feeling ‘hyper’, tell your brain to translate all that hyper energy and adrenalin into even greater focus on keeping on doing what you have been doing to get you to the point you are now at.<br />
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Depending on your imagination, you might even imagine the adrenalin as a high powered injection of laser like accuracy, vision, and strength – whatever works for you to take back control over your mind rather than letting your amygdala create the very thing it is fearful of.<br />
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In other words, you can’t stop your amygdala from doing what it does – we are hardwired to worry about things that might cause us psychological or physical harm.<br />
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What we can do is train ourselves to quickly realise that<a href="http://historymatters.gmu.edu/d/5057/"> the only thing to fear is fear itself</a> and convert that extra surge of energy into the winning edge.<br />
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Building resilience</h3>
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When you think about it, how do ambulance officers turn up for work every day knowing that they are going to have to attend accident scenes where people are dead, dying or horribly injured?<br />
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What do you think their amygdala does? Before training I am sure they experience fear and an impulse to get away, to not attend, to avoid the situation.<br />
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But they don’t. They turn up, remain calm, take control and in so doing save lives. If ambulance officers can do it in real life or death situations, I’m confident we can in other situations.<br />
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Resilience comes from feeling the fear and doing it anyway. To fight the urge to give up or to stop trying; to not let that ancient part of your brain dominate the contemporary you.<br />
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Resilience also comes from familiarity with the challenge. Every time you face it, whatever the outcome, win or lose, your amygdala realises it was not a life or death situation and slowly will becomes less sensitive and reactive to the perceived threat. So when we talk about “practice makes perfect” – it’s as much about the mind as the body.<br />
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Resilience not only in pressure situations</h3>
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Ever wondered why you couldn’t stick to your diet? Resilience is not simply about dealing with pressure situations. It can also be about staying on your new food program, giving up smoking, going for the walk, to the gym, practising the piano, your language lessons, persevering with the new software or system.<br />
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Even in these situations, if you allow it to, your amygdala will make the ‘fear’ of the difficulty of the challenge run you off track and you’ll sink back ‘safely’ into your comfort zone. You’ll beat yourself up anyway if you do that so why not persevere with the challenge?<br />
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One step at a time</h3>
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To build resilience, tell yourself it’s one step at a time whether it’s a pressure situation or not. Your amygdala can cause you to leap mountains in emergencies – but it takes an all or nothing approach. Your amygdala ‘sees’ life in extremes. Your pre-frontal cortex sees the spectrum.<br />
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So use your cortex to break down the pressure situation into its component parts. Then let your amygdala face it each part at a time not just as one overwhelming feat. Learn to breathe, focus and become resilient – then winning and coping under pressure will never again be ‘so near but so far away.’Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0Australasia-18.646245142670608 141.328125-68.4417761426706 58.7109375 31.149285857329389 -136.0546875tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-80929870911707437622015-02-19T09:30:00.000+11:002015-02-19T09:30:00.643+11:00Could a blood test determine your job application?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">If your future employer wants you to take on a role that could be demanding and challenging, could a blood test be required to predict your response to anger and fear?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">It may be possible in the future. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;"><a href="http://www.genengnews.com/gen-news-highlights/fear-response-may-be-epigenetically-amplified-or-muted/81250914/">A recent study published February 9</a> in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,</span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">indicated that individuals with lower DNA methylation show diminished brain response to angry and fearful faces and greater communication between brain regions important for regulating emotion. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">Perhaps discovering multiple types of markers could even result in a kind of emotion-predisposition dashboard, predicting problems and prompting interventions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">To arrive at this result, the University of Virginia study evaluated sample of 98 healthy Caucasians aged 18 to 30 who provided blood samples and underwent functional MRI brain scans while looking at pictures of angry and fearful faces.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.2000007629395px;">Interesting definitely. But how could such a test be used in the future, that is the big question. When considering who to marry or live with? Employment screening? </span></span>Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-56616308370714992172015-02-16T09:30:00.000+11:002015-02-16T09:30:00.577+11:00People can see inside and through your brain - or will do very soon!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Another amazing advance in neuroscience and what the future is looking like.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #4c4d4f; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">This month, psychiatrist Karl Deisseroth, a </span><a href="http://www.popsci.com/tags/brilliant-10-class-2008?con&dom=pscau&src=syndication" style="background-color: white; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><em>Popular Science</em>Brilliant 10 alumnus</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #4c4d4f; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">, is </span><a href="http://www.fnih.org/press/releases/foundation-nih-award-lurie-prize-biomedical-sciences-karl-deisseroth?con&dom=pscau&src=syndication" style="background-color: white; color: black; cursor: pointer; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">getting the Lurie Prize in Biomedical Sciences</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #4c4d4f; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">. The prize is for his work on two lab techniques that neuroscientists now use widely to study autism, Alzheimer's disease, depression, and other brain disorders.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #4c4d4f; font-family: Georgia;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">The technique allows scientists to look through the brain as if it is transparent. At the moment is seems this is only done of organs taken from deceased animals or humans, but in the future?????</span></span></span><br />
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Someone loses it – a man dies<br />
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In the beautiful city of Sydney water restrictions are imposed. An elderly man was watering his garden. It was legal. He was watering his roses in the late afternoon, within the time limits imposed by the restrictions.<br />
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A younger man passed by. It seems that the men exchanged words about the watering and an altercation broke out. Moments later, the older man was dead. A grandfather, a father, a husband’s life snuffed out in an instant over a garden hose. The words had become blows leading to the older man’s death.<br />
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What could have happened?<br />
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The next day, in a road rage incident, a driver hurled a full bottle of water at the car of another driver. Fortunately, no one died in this incident.<br />
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On the same day, a manager at an office told a staff member that she had “!@#%ed up”, that she had to stay back late to make up for it or he would dock her pay. Her ‘error’ was a delay in delivering a report to his office caused by a power failure in her building that trapped her in a lift for an hour.<br />
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Why do so many people ‘lose it’?</h3>
When you look around your world - at work, at home, in the street, on the road, or simply watering your garden – why do we see so many examples of people just ‘losing it’, losing self-control and allowing almost animal type behaviour to take over?<br />
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We see it on the sports field – biting incidents, punching, racist remarks – where grown men and women, players and parents, lose self-discipline in the heat of the moment.<br />
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Sometimes the crowd urge them on – why? If we urge them on, what do we want to see happen? Physical harm? How much? Death? Sometimes the behaviour is seen for what it is – lack of self-control and unprofessional.<br />
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At home, we see domestic violence, verbal abuse and hurtful comments – often resulting in fractured relationships and mental and physical harm to people in the place where they should be most treasured and secure.<br />
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A woman and her son were charged with killing the woman’s husband over 10 years ago, cutting up his body and scattering the body parts. One arm and the head have not yet been found. It is suggested that extreme domestic abuse was involved.<br />
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Why are we wired with the flight/flight response?</h3>
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Stop for a moment and think about your levels of self-control. Think about the levels of self control in the real life examples I have given.</div>
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In the last example, the woman may have truly feared for her life. Her amygdala may well have caused her to act in order to preserve her own life. If this is true, then it is unlikely that any amount of logic would have prevented her from seeing any other way out of the intolerable situation that she may have been in.<br />
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If she did kill her husband in these circumstances then this is flight/flight at its extreme and this is what the brain is hard-wired for – self-defence.<br />
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But watering a garden? A disagreement about road rules? A sporting event? An issue at work?<br />
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Do you have self-control?</h3>
So please consider: have you ‘lost it’ to any degree, anywhere, anytime, with anyone, over the last week?<br />
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* Did you argue with a shop assistant or a call centre operator?<br />
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* Did you ‘snap’ at your partner or your kids?<br />
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* Did you speak aggressively to a staff member?<br />
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* Were you sarcastic or make an unnecessarily snide remark?<br />
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* Did you fail to speak up at a meeting when you disagreed with a proposition, or someone clearly was distorting the truth – or worse still, stealing your ideas?<br />
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* Did you fail to tell the truth at a performance appraisal meeting?<br />
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* Did you just walk away from a discussion you need to have at home because it could be uncomfortable?<br />
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What was happening in these situations? Why did you show these aggressive or defensive behaviours? Was it The Almond Effect? ie an inappropriate response by your amygdala because, in fact, you weren’t actually ‘about to die’ even though your amygdala is geared for self-defence.<br />
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Your amygdala can’t tell the difference between a real and perceived threat to life. But your “thinking you” can.<br />
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The Almond Effect doesn’t have to play out as violently as some of the examples I have given. It happens when your amygdalae (almonds) are engaged and you are feeling fearful, anxious, irritated, defensive, embarrassed and so on. Have you felt like that this week?<br />
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Don’t get me wrong. These feelings are a ‘natural’ reaction to events that happen around us if the incident triggers patterns, memories or a history of things that we believe (mostly at a sub-conscious level) could harm us in some way.<br />
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It’s what we do about those triggers that determines our maturity and self-control and our leadership abilities.<br />
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Be a STAR</h3>
In previous posts, I have written about being a STAR. using my STAR model to Stop – Think – Act – Rewire.<br />
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S: When you catch yourself being worked up or feel an unhelpful emotion coming on, like fear, anger, frustration, STOP. Stop yourself from immediately reacting. Take a deep breath. Count to 10 or whatever it takes.<br />
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T: Then THINK about what is really going on. What are the consequences/ outcomes you really want to come from this situation?<br />
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A: Then ACT – do whatever you decide is the best thing to do for the outcomes you would want outside the heat of the moment.<br />
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R: Finally reflect and review what went on. Where did the reaction come from? What caused it? How can you learn to manage that reaction in future? In other words, how can you REWIRE your amygdala?<br />
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Stop – Think – Act – Rewire</h3>
The biggest challenge is to catch yourself experiencing The Almond Effect. Learn to watch for the signals – increased heart rate, perspiring, clenching your fists, your teeth, simply feeling agitated – everyone has a different signal.<br />
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If some of the horrible examples of The Almond Effect that I have given don’t motivate you to reflect on when this happens to you – let me be provocative: do you think that you have ever hurt someone emotionally because of your lack of self-control? Are you proud of it? Did it get you the result you wanted – in the short term, in the long term?<br />
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Self preservation in the 21st C</h3>
The Almond Effect® is a powerful emotional reaction – hard-wired into humans for self-preservation hundreds of thousands of years ago.<br />
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But this is the 21st C. If you are reading this it is likely that you live in a society where your elementary and basic needs met, as set out, for example, in Maslow's hierarchy ie you are fed, sheltered, and secure.<br />
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Of course, there are external threats that we cannot control – terrorism being a key example where The Almond Effect ® is exploited for appalling outcomes.<br />
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I urge you - become really conscious of examples of The Almond Effect around you. When you read the newspapers and watch the news, when you observe people at work, when you look at sport – actively consider: how many examples of The Almond Effect do you notice?<br />
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Even this exercise will help you become aware of the conscious and unconscious moments we later regret - when we have allowed The Almond Effect to rule our lives inappropriately instead of us being in control of how we act and our impact on others.<br />
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<span class="s1">Written in the context of sales, this article applies equally to 'selling' change and getting buy-in.</span></div>
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<a href="http://d12wy5ngtjjtak.cloudfront.net/ipad/blogs/when-to-sell-with-facts-and-figures-and-when-to-appeal-to-emotions">Read the HBR Blog here</a>Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-3240768828066240402015-01-30T09:30:00.000+11:002015-01-30T09:30:01.012+11:00Woman not afraid anything even danger due to rare genetic disorder<br />
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This is a fascinating case study about a woman with a genetic condition that causes calcification of parts of the brain including the amygdala. As well as an insight and confirmation of the role of the amygdala, it offers researchers another potential pathway to alleviation of conditions such as anxiety disorder and PTSD.</div>
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<br />Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-88387216142280550562015-01-27T12:33:00.000+11:002015-01-27T12:33:43.398+11:00Is it performance review time? Your brain thinks its a mammoth and it probably is<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Are performance ratings be a thing of the past - just like a mammoth?<br />
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One of the most significant things we know about our brain is that it's going to react the same way to a threat (at least initially) whether it is a physical one or a psychological one. Our brains simply don't register the difference until the cortex is actively engaged and even then, managing fear can still be difficult.<br />
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It's why we can get anxious, upset, or flippant or aggressive at performance review time. It's the fight or flight system, your amygdala reacting to 'protect' you - what I call 'The Almond Effect.<br />
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This video suggests that performance ratings run contrary to the neuroscience.<br />
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It suggests a strategic conversational approach instead.<br />
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At the last Neuroleadership Conference (San Francisco 2014), it seemed that some companies were leading the move away from ratings to this approach.<br />
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Change leaders have so much going on that it's easy to become overwhelmed by the multiple demands of their team, their colleagues, their bosses, the project managers, their regular workload - let alone home life demands.<br />
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More and more, mindfulness is practised as a way of dealing with the 'noise' and to enable focus to make headway through the workload.<br />
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This article from the HBR blog explains what happens in our brains when we practice Mindfulness.<br />
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It's a short, simple explanation that makes sense.<br />
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<a href="https://hbr.org/2015/01/mindfulness-can-literally-change-your-brain">Mindfulness Can Literally Change Your Brain</a><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/conversational-intelligence/201412/minimize-fear-maximize-trust">Read the complete article</a> on Psychology Today by Judith Glaser,<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 22.3999996185303px;"> author of </span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Conversational-Intelligence-Leaders-Extraordinary-Results/dp/1937134679" style="background-color: white; color: #00a7e6; line-height: 22.3999996185303px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" target="_new">Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 22.3999996185303px;">, who has been studying the relationship between trust, communication and high performance for decades.</span></span><br />
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Has your boss ever said something like the words in the title to you? Have you ever said it to a member of your team?</div>
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The secret might be about a restructure, change in product line, new technology, the company's financial results, a mistake, a failure, a possible merger, something about themselves, another employee or even about your role yet you are sworn to silence.</div>
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And what about at home? Have you ever withheld something from your partner or kids? An action that's left you feeling uncomfortable at best and dishonest at worst?</div>
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Apart from the discomfort you almost certainly experience, I am sure you've witnessed the effect of secrecy on people around you especially if they suspect something and already feel they are operating in an information vacuum.</div>
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People generally hate being kept in the dark. You are right if you suspect that our amygdalae are implicated in reactions to silence in ‘suspicious' circumstances.</div>
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<strong>We are so predictable!</strong></div>
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Let's explore this. Most of what we do everyday we don't need to think about - we run on ‘automatic.' We consciously don't need to think about what to do next - we just ‘know'. Our brain guides us to take action based on pre-existing patterns of behaviour (habits) and predictability of outcomes.</div>
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So from the moment you get out of bed to the time you go back to bed, you probably follow a similar routine every day.</div>
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We don't like to think we are predictable but we are. We have to be otherwise our working memory would be exhausted and we would be whacked from the sheer effort of using our brains so much.</div>
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For me, my early morning outline is to get out of bed, go to the bathroom, then to the kitchen, turn on the electric jug, get my vitamins out, turn on my computer, open the sliding doors to the deck, open the front door and go down the steps to collect the newspaper, get my breakfast and so on. I don't actively think about it - it just happens like that most mornings.</div>
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My sub-conscious brain is guiding my actions and making decisions (like, is there enough water in the jug, stop pouring milk into the bowl) based on neural patterns laid down in its hardwiring that predicts outcomes.</div>
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Of course, if the paper hasn't been delivered or I've run out of vitamins then the routine is interrupted. I have to stop and think about what to do - well actually first, my amygdala automatically does some checking and assesses the risk to my survival with this break in pattern.</div>
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Usually it's no big deal because my amygdala knows based on history, that the lack of vitamins or a newspaper is not life threatening!</div>
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However if my computer tells me when I turn it on that its hard drive has failed then that's another reaction entirely - my ‘almonds' (the english translation of amygdalae) kick in!</div>
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I immediately have to manage my survival response (manifesting as words that it's preferable not to use!) and stop panicking long enough to get my thinking brain (pre-frontal cortex PFC) to work out where I put the number and service code for Apple, what I backed up, what I lost and what my priorities are.</div>
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My predictable morning didn't go as planned so The Almond Effect® kicked in - and I haven't even been up longer than 10 minutes!</div>
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<strong>Is it the same at work?</strong></div>
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What do you do when you get to work, do you follow the same routine? For example, it could be that you turn on the computer, get coffee, say hi to people at the workstation across from you, open your email, look at your calendar etc.</div>
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No drama, all normal just as your brain predicted, unless an unexpected message starts flashing on your screen to call your manager urgently. Your brain's hard-wired pattern-based operation is stopped in its tracks as it rapidly tries to assess the ‘threat' and predict what the urgency is all about.</div>
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Your amygdala is immediately on red alert asking whether the interruption is a threat to your survival. If your personal history indicates that an a message to call the boss immediately is likely to cause a problem, then The Almond Effect® kicks in.</div>
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That's when you'll be glad you've been to one of my workshops, because you'll immediately put STAR into operation and get your PFC engaged to think before you act!</div>
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Uncertainty really throws our brains into a spin because in the absence of any pattern to the contrary, our brain defaults to predict the worst outcome The Almond Effect®) - even in non-life threatening situations at home or at work.</div>
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This is why you should never be surprised that withholding information, keeping secrets etc will lead to gossip (flocking) pessimism and worst case scenario interpretations.</div>
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Lack of certainty creates anxiety, frustration, gossip and innuendo - all expressions of The Almond Effect®.</div>
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And anxious people don't concentrate or perform well - their brains are distracted - focussing on the cause of the anxiety. They are searching for any kind of predictable outcome so that the brain can operate with certainty again.</div>
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The situation is exacerbated if we are already operating in an information vacuum because our brains will predict the worst case scenario so we can prepare ourselves to survive.</div>
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Applied at home, it means for example that if your teenager isn't at the place they said they were going to, your 'almonds' go off. If you unexpectedly find a hotel receipt in your spouse's pocket, if your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere etc - you get the picture!</div>
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Whether you are implementing changes at work or trying to hide something from someone at home, be aware that if the other party's amygdala can't see a ‘safe' pattern, it will get suspicious. And the natural default reaction will be to focus on the worst case interpretation of the events with all the ramifications that will flow.</div>
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That's why most people say, just tell us what's going on - and then we can work out how to deal with it.</div>
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If you think you are doing people a favour by only giving information on a ‘need to know' basis, think again - brain biology wants just the opposite.</div>
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David was really frustrated. He was the leader of a team that sold luxury cars. As part of the company's renewed focus on improving customer service, his boss asked him to make sure that his team followed up with 1 in 4 of their customers two weeks after a sale to ensure they were happy with their new car.</div>
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David thought he had worked with his team to minimize resistance to change. He said he had implemented the things I have talked about previously i.e. the RIV model:</div>
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He asked them to raise any questions, their ‘what if's' and any fears. As very few questions or concerns had been raised, David believed that the team was comfortable with the new way of doing things.</div>
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But some of the most interesting comments were about David. For example, "whenever we raise issues about work, David always promises to look into it and get back to us but he never does."</div>
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One of the most revealing comments was this: "Well David himself doesn't agree with it. He told us that he thought it was a waste of time but that management said we had to do it."</div>
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What was David doing as the role model here? What behaviours and attitudes was he modelling? Has he sabotaged his own attempts to get his team following the new process?</div>
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In the same way I remember the look on my mother's face and the tone of her voice when she said: "Do as I say, not as I do" in response to my cheeky responses like:" Why should I do that? You don't....." She knew I'd caught her out.</div>
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We subconsciously take our lead from those around us especially those who are higher up the pecking order. David has said he doesn't agree with the new process. He's the boss. So without thinking it's easy to just imitate. After all, he's the leader.</div>
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We call this vicarious learning where simply by observing what goes on around us our brain learns what will we enhance our quality of life, bring rewards, ensure in basic terms our ‘survival' and what won't.</div>
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If you see someone at work being successful even though they are not adhering to the stated values like co-operation or teamwork or supporting the new work processes, then why wouldn't you do the same?</div>
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Way back in 1992, some neuroscientists working with monkeys discovered, by accident it seems, that when the monkeys observed a researcher eating an ice-cream, neurons lit up in the monkeys brain that mimicked the mechanical action of eating an ice-cream. The neurons fired as a mirror of what was being observed.</div>
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This research has been replicated in humans many times since. I know that you can think of examples. E.g. if you are watching a movie, the TV or in real life, do you wince when you see something painful happen to another person? I do it all the time when I'm watching rugby and see a heavy tackle. So does the crowd - even been there and part of a big ‘oooooowwwwwwhhhh'?</div>
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And I cringe if I hear someone say something sarcastic to a colleague. Because of our mirror neurons, our brain ‘feels' what the other person is feeling. It's not surprising that mirror neurons are sometimes called empathy neurons.</div>
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The critical message for us as managers is that when we have to bring about changes in the behaviour of others at work (or at home for that matter) we need to be actively conscious that subconsciously our team's mirror neurons are watching us for information about how to behave.</div>
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Unless our staff is actively engaging their pre-frontal cortex, the logical and rational response, then without thinking they are likely to take the apparently proven route - i.e. to behave like the boss. And given how busy people are and how much pressure we are all under, we should not be surprised when people act just like us.</div>
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What do you do to reinforce the kind of behaviours you want in your team? Are you consistent with the messages that you deliver? Do you believe in what you want your people to do? Do you model the customer service behaviours you ask of them in the way you treat your staff?</div>
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Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-41914150828897623772014-12-18T09:30:00.000+11:002014-12-18T09:30:00.920+11:00Dealing with Resistance to ChangeDo your employees like change?<br />
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When I ask this question of participants in my change leadership workshops, the answer is almost overwhelmingly no.<br />
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But when I ask part two of the question: do YOU like change – the answer is usually overwhelmingly yes!<br />
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Isn’t that curious? What happens when you become the boss? Do you go through some magic door and change your mindset about change?<br />
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I think the answer is often yes. And if we think about why this happens, it may give us some clues to getting our people on board not just in the short term but for the long haul so change is part of ‘business as usual’.<br />
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And change is ‘business as usual’, so why does it still consume vast amounts of our time? Why do managers still find themselves dealing with pockets of resistance and negative attitudes?<br />
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Let’s look at a couple of things about your role as a leader of change:<br />
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What is the difference in your mindset when you are a driver of change and when you are a recipient of change?<br />
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For example: think about a time when you decided to move home. You might have been offered a promotion or opportunity that involves relocation.<br />
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On the other hand, you might have lost your job and need to find work elsewhere. You might want to move closer to (or further from!) other family members. You might just want a change of scenery or lifestyle – it could be for a myriad of reasons.<br />
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By the time you have reached your decision, you have thought about all the reasons why it’s a good thing to move as well as all the reasons why not. You have mulled over the consequences of doing it and the consequences of not. You have thought about the financial, physical and emotional costs.<br />
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You have worked out how all these changes may affect you. You have been excited by the best possible outcomes of the move and faced up to or at least given some thought to the worst possible outcomes. You’re ready. You know what you’re going to do and how to deal with whatever will, crop up.<br />
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Many of these thoughts will be conscious and deliberate (logical and reasoned) but some will also be just feelings and intuition (an emotional or intuitive response).<br />
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After what’s gone on in your mind, you’re now in the driver’s seat. You’re in control. It’s your decision.<br />
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Of course, there is that small issue of your partner’s objections – they love your existing home. It’s peaceful, all established. Everything in its place. The neighbours are great – they will even look after the mail and the cat and keep an eye out for intruders if you go away. A routine exists – and given how much is going on in your lives, at least your partner felt secure knowing something was stable, home.<br />
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Then there are the kids. Why should they have to change schools? They “couldn’t live without their friends”, “you are so cruel” – you know what I mean.<br />
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It’s obvious isn’t it? As the initiator of the decision to move you’ve completed a three-step process – the RIV approach.<br />
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1. Reasons: We know and understand the reason for the change<br />
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2. Implications: We’ve have thought about the implications and consequences – personal, social, financial, environmental etc. We’ve faced and answered the ‘what if’s’ and our fears. We’ve looks at the positives as well as the negatives. i.e. we’ve dealt with The Almond Effect®.<br />
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3. Values: We’re comfortable that the decision fits in with our values, the way we want to live our lives.<br />
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Contrast your partner and kids – they may be able to tick off step 1 but if they aren’t jumping up and down with excitement then they certainly aren’t yet fully across steps two and three. In fact you might be facing overt and covert or passive resistance.<br />
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Unless you help them deal with steps 2 and 3, your move may be more trouble than its worth if you want to keep your relationships in tact.<br />
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The logical component of change is clearly in RIV step 1, knowing and understanding the reasons for the change. There’s a mixture of logic and emotion in step 2. It’s pretty well all emotion in step 3.<br />
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And we know which is the most powerful and the hardest. Dealing with emotional responses – a consequence of how our brains function.<br />
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How does this appy at work to facilitate change?</h4>
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Interestingly, many organizations think they do step 1 (explaining the Reasons) very well. And many do. However, it is worth questioning this: if you are experiencing resistance, ask your people to share their understanding of:<br />
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<li>What will be worse if things don't change?</li>
<li>How does this fit into the big picture, the overall plan or framework? </li>
<li>Their "WIFM" (what's in it for me?) of the changes compared to the previous way of doing things? </li>
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In fact, could you, as the manager/supervisor sum up the compelling need for change in plain language in 25 words or less?<br />
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I am surprised how often organizations think they have completed step 1 yet the feedback shows there are still gaps in understanding why, the reasons for change.<br />
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If it's not logical, it's emotional</h4>
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If your resistors can tell you the reasons for the change, then obviously the logic is OK but there is still something holding them back. It can only be their emotional responses.<br />
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Some they might share with you. Others they might not either because they don’t want to (and that’s a big area for discussion in itself) or perhaps even more frustrating, they can’t even articulate them themselves.<br />
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Changing your own attitude to change</h4>
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Usually, when you become the driver of change or at least the implementer as a supervisor, team leader or manager, you have had the benefit and experience of looking at change from a business level. You may have been involved in identifying the problems or challenges and coming up with the solutions.<br />
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As part of this process, you will have worked through the logic and had the opportunity to work through your emotional reactions as well.<br />
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e.g. what will this change mean for me and the company? How will it improve the way we do things around here and my workload? My bonus is riding on getting this done and that means a holiday for the family or maybe a new car. My boss will see that I have done a good job and so promotion or a raise may be an outcome.<br />
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So before you have to get others to change, you and most managers in change scenarios, have completed the 3 step RIV process – you understand the reasons, have looked at the implications and how it fits with your values. So you’re there, the change makes sense and you want to be part of it.<br />
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But your people (or your family!) may be lagging well behind you in the process. The RIV approach explains why you just want to get on with it - because you have already dealt with your logical and emotional reactions (consciously or unconsciously) – but if others haven't completed that process, don't be surprised that they don't share your enthusiasm yet<br />
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Different mindsets about change</h4>
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So I think there often is a difference in mindset about change between managers and staff – usually because of the timing and opportunity to go through the 3 RIV step model.<br />
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The implication of this is that if your projects are off track, blowing out budgets, timeframes or requiring more resources – check how you are tracking on the RIV model with the people who are impacted, directly and indirectly, by the change. What assumptions have you made where your employees are in the RIV process? How can you find out and/or measure this? Where there are gaps, what are you doing to assist them through? It’s time consuming in the short-term but vastly more effective overall.<br />
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Would you like some more information and assistance with working this through with your people? </h4>
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Please don't hesitate to contact me Anne@AnneRiches.com if you would like some more in depth application, facilitation and tools for this process. It's amazing what a small intervention can do to get your business change on track.<br />
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Future Blog Post</h4>
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One critical component to getting others to change is you – you as a role model.<br />
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In a future post we’ll look at your impact as a role model of change – do you unconsciously sabotage your own efforts?<br />
<br />Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-44252226640028875812014-12-17T09:44:00.000+11:002014-12-17T09:44:00.116+11:00It's coming - direct information download into your brain - hook me up now!Want to learn to fly a helicopter in a few minutes? Learn a new language in seconds? Shakespeare's works before you go to the theatre?<br />
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According to Nicholas Negroponte - this is not just science fiction. It's almost here:<br />
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Shopping while you're waiting for a train (it's delivered once you get home!), is an example of what Dominic Thurbon describes as digital disruption: </div>
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"... digital disruption means that schools, supermarkets and banks are not just ‘places’ anymore, and so it is the same with ‘work’.<br />
Digital disruption means that work is not a place. It’s put beautifully in the World of Work report from Randstad: work is changing from a being place that you go, into a collaborative process."<br />
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So if work is not a place, then:<br />
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"Some of the obvious effects of this are already clear – flexible working arrangements, remote teams, virtualisation are becoming de facto norms in many organisations. Although it is also worth noting that there is growing evidence that management capability is not keeping pace with the changes in work style (many managers, for example, are used to managing teams by presence and visibility, which obviously doesn’t work when your team is remote, and must be managed by productivity and output!)"<br />
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Game changer indeed - requiring masterful change leadership. Is your organisation up to this kind of challenge?<br />
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<a href="http://www.randstad.com.au/documents/pdf/HR%20thought%20leadership/Reshaping-the-world-of-work-hiring-managers-hr.pdf">reshaping the world of work for hiring managers & HR professionals</a><br />
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White paper by Dominic ThurbonAnne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-32708358182012025202014-12-11T09:30:00.000+11:002014-12-11T09:30:02.046+11:00Do you have anxious and scary situations at work?<h4>
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8.15pm - alone on a long empty platform waiting for the 8.30pm train from London Paddington to Heathrow. Another person appeared. He had the entire platform to choose a spot to wait but he came and stood next to me. My heart started to race.<br />
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‘Stop it’ I said to my amygdala.<br />
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‘Calm down’ I said to my hypothalamus but it continued to flood my body with adrenaline.<br />
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All my amygdalae could see was a “young man of middle eastern appearance with a backpack.”<br />
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My pre-frontal cortex was appalled and embarrassed at my limbic system response. My cortex had no idea whether the young man was from the Middle East or not – and even if he was, so what?<br />
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I used the STAR model:<br />
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Eventually the 8.30pm train arrived. I stepped on, sat down and my heart rate slowed.<br />
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Two months later, off the Neptune Islands in South Australia I was in a cage heading towards the ocean floor hoping to get up close and personal with some Great White Sharks.<br />
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One came soon enough - ‘Cheeky Girl’ – 4.2 metres and 1000 kg. She was BIG! And I saw her many teeth as she passed several times within a metre of me while she attempted to snatch the bait hanging off the back of the boat!<br />
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The 30 minutes in the cage passed in a flash.<br />
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Did my life flash before my eyes?</h4>
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Back on board I realised that my heart rate had hardly increased when I came face to face with this enormous predator. All I felt was awe and wonder as I watched one of the most amazing animals I have ever seen.<br />
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So what was the difference?<br />
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Why did I experience the fight/flight response so fully on a London train platform but not at all when within touching distance of a Great White Shark?<br />
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How much can you can prepare for scary situations?</h4>
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The answer lies in preparation and learning (Rewiring) from experience.<br />
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Some of you will recall from a previous post that I searched for GWS once before. But even with 3 days of turning the ocean red with burly including tuna heads, blood and guts – no shark appeared on that trip. So much for ‘blood in the water attracts sharks!’<br />
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However what we did do on that ‘no show’ trip was to talk a lot about GWS with experts, practice descents in the cage, watch videos, look at GWS photos and listen to research – all of which prepared us for the recent trip – and took away the fear.<br />
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In contrast, the man on the platform was a complete surprise. It was the end of a fabulous trip to the UK; I had just been shopping in Oxford Street and was looking forward to returning to Sydney.<br />
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I simply wasn’t focussed on what was happening on the platform or that any risks or dangers could be lurking there.<br />
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So I was unprepared for the possibility that a man could appear on the platform and trigger an ANT (automatic negative thought) that cracked my almonds (amygdalae) with a sledgehammer! <br />
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And I had no previous experience from which to train my amygdala not to react to a racist stereotype automatically stored in my brain’s ‘database of nasty things’ after September 11, 2001.<br />
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Face the fear and defuse your amygdala</h4>
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At work, ‘the man on the platform’ might turn up as a surprise outburst from the boss; an urgent deadline abruptly imposed; a retrenchment to be made, a dramatic fall in share price or an unanticipated cut in funding.<br />
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But ‘Cheeky Girl’ could show up when you anticipate the performance appraisal next week, a future presentation to the Board, an interview for a promotion, the switch over to a new system.<br />
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In other words, there will be some sudden and unexpected events that will catch us off guard. At those times, it is likely that we’ll experience The Almond Effect® - the fight/flight response in a pyschologically not physically threatening situation- even though our lives are not at risk.<br />
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When that happens, use the STAR technique – and focus especially on Rewiring afterwards – what can you learn from the experience? The more times you experience something confronting, the less confronting it becomes. Your amygdala learns that it is nothing to be overly concerned about.<br />
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But do not beat yourself up for reacting even though your pre-frontal cortex knows you should not have. We are hard wired for survival and our amygdalae do not know the difference between physical and psychological threats.<br />
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However when you know that a ‘scary’ situation is coming up (Cheeky Girl) – do everything you can to minimise the impact of The Almond Effect® by preparing as much as possible. Show your amygdala that there are no potentially fatal consequences to what you are about to do.<br />
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Then perhaps you’ll even enjoy coming face to face with your Great White Shark!Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-15176432677453364882014-12-09T09:30:00.000+11:002014-12-09T09:30:01.378+11:00Sleep off your toxic memories<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Would you like to simply sleep off toxic memories?<br />
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This may be possible one day due to the work of John O'Keefe the first neuroscientist to win a Nobel Prize.<br />
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Some french scientists have inserted a new memory into a mouse when sleeping.<br />
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And you thought that it was still a sci-fi notion .......<br />
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<a href="http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/talking-back/2014/11/24/a-mouse-experiment-suggests-how-we-might-one-day-sleep-off-toxic-memories/">Check out the short news item here</a><br />
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<br />Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-63515342476282325292014-12-04T11:00:00.000+11:002014-12-04T11:00:01.868+11:00Are you a totally predictable boss?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="s1"><b>The power of patterns</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">The Almond Effect® is when our amygdala recognises a pattern in its most rudimentary form, instantly assesses that it could be a threat to our ‘survival' and triggers us to react inappropriately to the ‘danger'.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Of course, everyday our brain relies on non-thinking patterns that don't trigger The Almond Effect so we can get on with our lives. That's why we are ‘creatures of habit'. We get into 'safe' ways of behaving, patterns, because then we don't have to think about it, we just ‘do'. It's less stressful and takes up less brain energy.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Change, even good change</b></span><b>, is demanding</b></div>
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<span class="s1">Yet anyone who has ever tried to change their diet or give up cigarettes, move to a new city, take on a new work role, learn a new language, work with different software, study a new subject, improve a long used swimming style (or your golf swing!) and a myriad of other examples - you know how demanding and tiring making those changes can be. Your brain finds it draining.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Even good changes, eg getting a great new boss or work colleague, buying a new phone or tablet, these can be difficult as your brain has already laid down patterns of behaviour attached to working with the previous person or device. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">And that's why it's hard to get people to change at work and indeed, at home.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>We prefer the status quo</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">Unless we are highly motivated and determinedly ‘think' our way to persist and be resilient during the challenges of laying down new patterns, our brain will always prefer to rely on existing patterns rather than have to learn and lay down new ones.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">That's why if we don't maintain the determination to keep trying, we (and our people) just slip back into the old ways. It's simply easier - and, automatic!</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Patterns are our default</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">For example, we lay down multiple new brain patterns when we are learning to drive, but once we have mastered the skills, it's easy and becomes almost a ‘non active thinking' skill. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">How many times have you driven somewhere and didn't even notice the journey as your mind was pre-occupied with something else. Scary at times! But if you were driving in another country where they drive on the other side of the road, I suspect you'd be concentrating on every moment - until your brain had ‘got' the new pattern!</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Same thing happens at work - we get into ways of working and behaviours that make work life easier for us and then rarely think about them - especially if the patterns deliver results.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Shrieking Sharapova</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">One of many great sporting examples of this is Maria Sharapova. She, like many other tennis players and other sportspeople, have a pattern that they repeat before every shot. And I mean every one.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Between each shot, she walks to the back of the court. Then, if serving she selects the tennis ball she is going to use to serve and approaches the base line. She takes a breath, looks at the part of the court she is serving to, slowly bounces the ball on the court twice, and then serves.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Every time! It is fascinating. Clearly she uses this pattern to get focussed, get her nerves and adrenaline under control and make winning shots. Though even when she is losing, she never breaks the routine.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">This is a conscious use of a brain pattern that she knows usually works, even when it isn't actually delivering the results, to make sure that she doesn't lose her cool, fall prey to The Almond Effect® and do something rash, impulsive, without thinking and contrary to her years of training.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Manager's patterns aren't always helpful</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">The challenge with patterns is that because they happen without thinking, sometimes we don't realise the impact of our behaviours (patterns) on others.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">For example, the manager who never looks up when someone comes into their office - what message does that pattern send to the staff member? The CEO who never makes any announcements that have any good news - what signal does that pattern send to staff? What do you think is their state of mind, their expectation, whenever the CEO indicates their intention to make an announcement or visit?</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Other examples:</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Managers who don't work with their team to formulate new organisational strategies because "what's the point, the CEO will do it his way anyway." And he does. Why would you be surprised when these managers complain that the CEO is an autocrat and he complains that they don't co-operate. Both parties are set in their own patterns of behaviour, both reinforcing each other's.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">What about trying to improve safety by changing uniforms in a manufacturing environment? What if the employees are used to uniforms with long sleeves and you want them to wear short sleeves. Or vice versa? Seems on the face of it like a small thing. Yet because of the change required in mental patterns (try listing them from the employees' point of view), such a request can present real challenges for managers implementing change.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>We have unhelpful patterns we're not even conscious of</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">And outside work. Have you ever said something like: I don't like sour cream on potatoes - but in fact have never tasted it? Or "I've always vote Liberal" or "Labor" as the case may be - why? Because your parents always did.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Where do those choices/patterns come from and what makes us stop, or not stop, and review them? You know you have a pattern that you've never reviewed when you say or think to yourself: "I've never really thought about it". Or someone says to you: 'you are so predictable' and you're staggered that you are!</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>So how predictable are you?</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">In fact, have you ever thought or said to someone else: "you're so predictable". How often has anyone ever said that to you? Do you just ‘know' how someone is going to react to a certain situation, what they are going to say? Would they say the same about you?</span></div>
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<span class="s1">It's hard work to lay down new patterns especially if the old ones seem to have worked well enough so far. The first step to overcoming the negative and stressful impacts of The Almond Effect is to stop and reflect on what's going on for you at that moment. It's about developing self-awareness. It's about looking at what automatic behaviours you engage in, or what automatic assumptions you make, without thinking, just on reflex.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Try this</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">Ask a trusted work colleague if they can predict how you would react (behave) if:</span></div>
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<span class="s1">- a new IT system was introduced</span></div>
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<span class="s1">- a new manager was hired from outside over internal competition</span></div>
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<span class="s1">- your boss got a new expensive car</span></div>
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<span class="s1">- you were asked to stay - back late for the third night in a row</span></div>
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<span class="s1">You get the kind of examples I'm thinking of.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">And what about at home: what's predictable? About you? About someone you share your home with?</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Not that there is anything wrong with predictability. As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, patterns help us live our lives less stressfully, usually.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Good leaders try to discover and reflect on their patterns</b></span></div>
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<span class="s1">In order to change and to build leadership skills, we must develop and hone the ability to reflect on our patterns, good and bad, and assess their impact on others and how much they contribute towards our goals.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Sometimes understanding this can be the most important step we can take towards becoming a great manager.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><b>Please feel free to forward this to a colleague</b></span></div>
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Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-534100013678711082014-12-01T11:59:00.000+11:002014-12-01T11:59:00.996+11:00Do you work for a disrespectful boss ? So do over 10,000 others<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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A study of 20,000 employees around the world shows that being treated with respect is more important than recognition, appreciation, an inspiring vision, useful feedback or opportunities for learning growth and development.</div>
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Yet over half said they were not treated with respect leading to less engagement, more turnover, less focus, greater health costs. Any surprises here?</div>
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To try and figure out why through a separate smaller survey by the same author, 60% of that group said they were uncivil because they are overloaded and have no time to be nice. </div>
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When my mother was teaching me how to communicate with people, she never explained that being respectful took extra time. She always told me that it was a matter of choice and that if I chose respect I would reap the benefits.</div>
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Mum - over 10,000 others say you were right!</div>
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<a href="https://hbr.org/2014/11/half-of-employees-dont-feel-respected-by-their-bosses">Read the article here</a></div>
Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-10128094262617771942014-11-26T09:40:00.000+11:002014-11-27T17:59:12.278+11:00What to do when you boss doesn't motivate youWe've all had them. Bosses who don't inspire us to do anything let alone work more than we have to. So what can we do when leaving isn't a choice?<br />
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Here are some useful tips about how to deal with that.<br />
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<a href="https://hbr.org/2014/11/how-to-motivate-yourself-when-your-boss-doesnt">Click here.</a><br />
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<br />Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-34970574078347106522014-11-24T10:19:00.000+11:002014-11-24T10:19:00.547+11:00The high cost of gutlessness<h2>
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Is Courage missing in your organisation?</h2>
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Have you stopped to assess the cost of lack of courage in your organisation?<br />
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For example: have you costed the failure to manage poor performers? Or the cost of lost productivity when team dynamics go awry and no-one has the courage to deal with the situation because "I don't want to upset them".<br />
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What about the cost to an organisation where GroupThink prevails at the very top?<br />
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Is your CEO is surrounded by ‘yes' people who, often due to a heightened sense of self-preservation and a fear of rocking the boat, fail to challenge the CEO about the strategic direction of the company or some other decision or direction where the CEO has got it wrong or is in danger of making a big mistake?<br />
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The origins of courage</h3>
Here's what Charles A. Smith has to say:<br />
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<i>"Courage is persevering despite fear. It is gumption, grit, and the capacity to get up after a setback, with one's heart on fire..</i><br />
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<i>The word comes from the French 'curage' for "putting one's heart into action." Courage is an essential virtue, a source of strength that contributes to all significant human endeavors. Every great accomplishment requires courage. </i><br />
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<i>Courage simply is "making the decision to do what you know is right."</i><br />
<i>A day comes in every person's life when there is a choice between acting out of fear or doing the right thing. </i><br />
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<i>Courage finds its roots in two fundamental skills learned during early childhood: persevering despite adversity and remaining mindful despite fear.<br /><br />This wariness and self-protection are critical skills. </i><br />
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<i>The problem with fear, though, is that its arousal can trigger mind-numbing panic. The natural push of fear to flight makes self-control challenging. Courage, like all growth, requires taking risks.</i><br />
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<i>Remaining mindful despite fear means acting with grace under pressure. It means learning to link the thinking part of our brains (the cortex) with the emotional arousal in the center of our brains (the limbic system)."</i><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Charles A. Smith, PhD, parent educator and extension specialist in the School of Family Studies and Human and Human Services at Kansas State University in Manhattan Smith, C.A. 2005. First steps to mighty hearts: The origins of courage.</span><br />
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Three recent examples where courage was missing - and yes, these are true</h3>
<i>Example one: </i>A manager devised a 360 degree performance feedback scheme for himself and his team with a rating of 1 to 5 where five was ‘above and well beyond expectations' and one was essentially abysmal. When he received the feedback forms from his team (who acted very courageously), he received mostly ones and twos. He simply told his team that they would re-do the assessment in 6 months time and promptly filed the feedback in a bin.<br />
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<i>Example two:</i> at a major retail outlet in Sydney, the system for queuing and paying was so disorganised and customers were getting irritated about the length of the wait for service. When the store manager was told the system was not working, she responded: "well it's been alright up to now" and walked away. So clearly the customers were the problem!!<br />
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Another customer followed up with: ‘We are trying to give you some helpful feedback", to which she replied: "there's nothing wrong with the system". Then the store started to lose big money as angry customers put down their intended purchases and simply walked out. Finally after further interchanges, the manager said: "Look I only do what I'm told. It's nothing to do with me" and walked away.<br />
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I was astonished to have witnessed this and became even more so when another staff member was saying under her breath: "Let her have it!"<br />
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<i>Example three:</i> prior to an off-site managers' workshop to discuss how to move the organisation forward, the staff had given extensive confidential feedback to the facilitator about the financial results/mood dependent chief executive and how that led to a lack of trust in the promises that the CEO made. Poor results would usually mean the CEO would do a back flip on previous promises. This in turn led to nervousness on the part of the staff to take risks or a long term approach to the business.<br />
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When finally one person had the courage to raise this during the workshop, he was not supported by the other members of staff; nor did the CEO accept what was being said. The trust issue remained unresolved and needless to say, no real progress made on the issue of how to move the company forward.<br />
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Do you surround yourself with courageous people? </h3>
You should - it's an employee retention strategy.<br />
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It's a courageous act to surround yourself with courageous people and what an extraordinary place it would be to work. People would be challenged to grow and contribute, listen, be listened to, think outside the square and feel valued and supported. This is what employees tell us they want so see it as part of your employee retention strategy.<br />
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Your customers would also benefit as the culture of being courageous would extend to the way staff dealt with customers, listening carefully to their feedback and ideas for improvement. What a low cost way to do research that would improve your performance in the market place.<br />
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So why do we hold back? </h3>
What can we do about it? What holds us back from being as courageous as we could be? The Almond Effect ® - our fear based on past experiences. Let me share the first step in overcoming The Almond Effect with an extract from my e-book: "Where Did That Come From?"<br />
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What can we do about it?</h3>
"Start by identifying the physical sensations you experience prior to, or during, an episode of The Almond Effect ®. Think back to times when you ‘lost it'. What were you feeling, physically? Tick the ones that apply to you on this list.<br />
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<li>Increased heart rate </li>
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<li>Butterflies in the stomach </li>
<li>Nausea </li>
<li>Tight neck and shoulders </li>
<li>Foot tapping or finger drumming </li>
<li>Teeth grinding </li>
<li>Increased, erratic or shallow breathing </li>
<li>Add your own: </li>
</ul>
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When you did notice the sensation - was it already too late to do anything about it?<br />
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What could you have done if you'd gone into reaction management mode straight away, as soon as you noticed the sensation?<br />
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What could you try to do differently when you feel these things in the future?<br />
Make some notes about your answers to these questions somewhere where you can look at them often, especially your answer to question three.<br />
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Start training yourself to become body aware so that when you notice any of these physical reactions begin to develop, so you can take steps to get yourself back in control. Whatever you do, don't forget to breathe!"<br />
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<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Change Leader Programs</span></span></h4>
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<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">Anne Riches offers 1/2 day, 1
to 2 days, and longitudinal programs that develop managers into better
change leaders who deliver growth and productivity for their business. </span></h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
</span>
<br />
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
However acquiring the mindset and capability to deliver through
successful leadership competencies doesn't happen as a quick fix.</span></h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
</span>
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<h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
The more you put in, the more you get out. </span></h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
</span>
<br />
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">The focus is on leading the
people side of change as an effective, inspirational and motivational
leader - it's not simply or only about processes and models. It's about
holding a mirror up and discovering whether you see a genuine change
leader. </span></h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
</span>
<br />
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">if you do, we'll build on it. if you don't, we work to make you
the best leader you can be. </span></h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
</span>
<br />
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
For more information, contact Anne at anne@anneriches.com</span></h4>
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<span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">
And see her website for testimonials from businesses that have benefited from Anne's interventions: www.anneriches.com</span><i><br /></i></h4>
Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-68290373902665771952014-11-21T09:30:00.000+11:002014-11-21T09:30:00.382+11:00Want to see inside the brain of a psychopath?<br />
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Great little news clip describing MRI scanning of 3500 inmates brains. They found their amygdala are smaller.<br />
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<a href="http://www.king5.com/story/news/health/mind/2014/11/17/scan-psychopathic-brain/19198231/">Click here to watch it</a>. <br />
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So I wonder what this means for the prisoner and the non-prisoner population in the future?<br />
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Many have written that psychopaths roam company corridors in the <a href="http://www.forbes.com/sites/victorlipman/2013/04/25/the-disturbing-link-between-psychopathy-and-leadership/">guise of CEOs and Executives</a>.<br />
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Maybe we should install MRI scanners at the door of every meeting to determine who comes in?Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-48113910534432833872014-11-18T09:30:00.000+11:002014-11-18T09:30:00.496+11:00What sets leaders (and losers) apart?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />
Each year Boss magazine <a href="http://www.afr.com/p/boss/boss_young_executive_takes_the_year_pd599Lyx8My0lew3nOlbmM">publishes a list of Young Executives of the Year</a>.<br />
<br />
Particularly
interesting is a list I saw a year or so back of the tendencies of
those who <b>don't </b>have what it takes to be on the list:<br />
<br />
<ul>
<li>Have good ideas but lack the ability to execute them<br />
</li>
<li>Have closed discussions and make assumptions<br />
</li>
<li>Derail frequently and let the dark side of their personality affect their work and relationships at work<br />
</li>
<li>Be arrogant rather than inclusive<br />
</li>
<li>Miss opportunities to use empathy<br />
</li>
<li>Micro-manage instead of delegate<br />
</li>
<li>Be impulsive rather than evidence based in decision<br />
</li>
<li>Lack perception about how others are feeling<br />
</li>
<li>Get confused about managing who they are as people and what's required in the role</li>
</ul>
Almost
everything on the list stems from inadequate insights about themselves,
what makes them who they are and their affect on others - in other
words self-leadership.<br />
<br />
A huge component of that involves The
Almond Effect® - understanding how the stressors and challenges of
everyday life trigger our primitive survival (flight/fight/flock/freeze)
instincts.<br />
<br />
The best leaders know that each one of us is the sum
of our experiences and that, unless we monitor our behaviors and
actions, our brains are hardwired will take us by shortest, most well
trodden route to action. This is fine if the action is appropriate but
not fine if we end up reacting in ways that are inappropriate either for
others or for ourselves.<br />
<br />
<h3>
The change organ</h3>
<br />
Our brains can and do change - it's called neuro-plasticity. However, it takes courage to deeply examine what makes us tick and triggers our immediate non-thinking behaviors.<br />
<br />
Changing embedded patterns of behavior can be hard without determination and practice.<br />
<br />
We can change our brains by changing our minds. But you have to stay on track. Understanding The Almond Effect® and mastering STAR helps you do that.<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;"><span style="font-size: large;">Change Leader Programs</span></span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">Anne Riches offers 1/2 day, 1
to 2 days, and longitudinal programs that develop managers into better
change leaders who deliver growth and productivity for their business. </span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">
However acquiring the mindset and capability to deliver through
successful leadership competencies doesn't happen as a quick fix.</span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">
The more you put in, the more you get out. </span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">The focus is on leading the
people side of change as an effective, inspirational and motivational
leader - it's not simply or only about processes and models. It's about
holding a mirror up and discovering whether you see a genuine change
leader. </span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">if you do, we'll build on it. if you don't, we work to make you
the best leader you can be. </span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">
For more information, contact Anne at anne@anneriches.com</span></h4>
<h4>
<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">
And see her website for testimonials from businesses that have benefited from Anne's interventions: www.anneriches.com</span><i><br /></i></h4>
Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-59068570917071120252014-11-17T10:41:00.002+11:002014-11-17T10:41:52.867+11:00Give your money away - it will make you happier! Try this test.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24634274.post-16999743650878802132014-11-14T12:26:00.000+11:002014-11-14T12:26:00.114+11:00Build a change platform, not a change programTerrific article from McKinseys on re-imagining change.<br />
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<a href="http://www.mckinsey.com/insights/organization/build_a_change_platform_not_a_change_program?cid=other-eml-nsl-mip-mck-oth-1411">Build a change platform, not a change program </a><br />
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The authors suggest that many executives still see change as an interruption that has to be managed instead of continuous experience. But that's what most organisations are set up for.<br />
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I especially agree with their suggestion that the role of an executive should be change enable in chief not change agent in chief. Well said!Anne Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04062498176642541062noreply@blogger.com0